Disease is caused by many things: infection, toxins, stress, poor diet, trauma, and genetics. Spiritual issues can also influence disease. In particular, lack of forgiveness often leads to lack of healing and poor health.
We do not forgive for the other person, but we forgive for ourselves. If we hold on to grudges and anger and blame and bitterness, we are only hurting ourselves. No matter the issues, we are always better off if we forgive those who have harmed us. We need to let go of these negative emotions that are blocking our healing and preventing our health.
Furthermore, the Bible instructs us to forgive others for their transgressions because YHWH (God) forgives us for our transgressions.
So, how do we actually forgive someone? What is really going on when we forgive someone?
When others wrong us, we feel that they owe us something. For example, if they dented our car, then we feel that they owe us for the repair of our car. If they hurt us with their words, then we feel that they owe us an apology. In other words, we perceive that they owe us something and that they are indebted to us for something. This something should be equal to the value of the wrong.
If they fix our car or apologize from the heart, then we are even again. The debt has been paid. The relationship has been restored.
However, if they do not pay us back for their wrong, we feel a multitude of negative emotions that eventually cause a spiritual wound. This wound can become infected with spiritual entities that will destroy our health. Lack of forgiveness eventually causes torment, harassment, and spiritual bondage.
we need to forgive their debts in order to break free from
spiritual warfare. When we forgive them, we are consciously making the
decision to allow them not to owe us anything anymore. We no longer
expect them to repay us because we have cancelled their
debt. They no longer need to provide us with retribution. We have
successfully forgiven them and their debt. We have released our
negative emotions. And we are now free to love them rather than to hate them.
How many times do we forgive someone? As many times as needed!
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean that we should forget what they did to us especially if they intentionally harmed us. In other words, forgiveness does not justify the deed. Instead, we should learn our lessons and act accordingly to rectify future situations. We should forgive and forget their debt, but we should learn from their actions in order not to be continuously victimized.
Also, our forgiveness does not mean that they are off the hook with YHWH (God) who will reckon with them in His own timing.
Quite often, patients who have blocks in their healing process have forgiveness issues stemming from their childhood or from their marriages. Sometimes we even have difficulty forgiving ourselves for our poor decisions. Counseling is usually needed to identify these issues and then to forgive ourselves and our parents, relatives, spouse, and others for their past transgressions - intentional and unintentional. Our past should not have a hold on our health now and in the future.
Forgiving others allows us to live in peace with ourselves and with others. We will become more compassionate and loving as we release the hate and bitterness that accompanies unforgiveness.